During the political season there has been quite a bit of reference to heroes a and inspirational figures in the candidates lives. McCain referenced one of his heroes, Teddy Roosevelt, in last nights debate. It’s got me thinking about people who have inspired me in my life. This morning I went for a long bike ride and while I was cruising down the road, my mind started to drift back and I could see the faces of so many people who had influenced me for the better. Heroes, mentors, muses.
Both my grandfathers were heroes to me. I was closer with Nat, my mothers father for most of my life until he died but when I went to college in New York City I spent more time and really bonded with my other grandfather, Sam. Sam believed in charitable work and giving back. In his “retirement” he served on dozens of committees and boards for a range of non-profit organizations. He was truly a man of the people. He was 80 years old and never took a day off. He was driving to work on a snowy cold day when a truck went through a stop sign and broadsided his car. He never knew what hit him. I wonder if he knew the big gaping hole he left behind for so many who were helped by his committment to serve.
I worked my way through Pratt Institute and one summer when I was between jobs I strolled into a neighborhood Italian restaurant asking if they needed a dishwasher. The funny little man who came rolling out of the kitchen covered in tomato sauce and breadcrumbs was Joe Yaccarino and it was my great privilege to be ‘adopted’ by this New York original. Restauranteur, master chef and patron of the arts, Joe took one look at a skinny, long haired, rather sloppy student and said only “Do you want to make money?” Sure I said and so Joe made me a waiter. I did make lots of money for the first time in my life but I really gained so much more. Joe introduced me to the Opera and to the Ballet. We argued over art and music and film and he taught me how to cook. Most important, he taught me to always believe in your talents and follow your passion, even against great odds. Joe was not only like a second father to me but he was a mentor and a dear friend till the day he left us.
Mickey Mantle was my boyhood idol, mostly because he was the charismatic New York Yankee center-fielder. But I felt that Mantle showed a lot of class later in life during his health struggles. Here’s a guy who, just like me, made lot of mistakes but in the end he did what he could to atone. He had his shortcomings to be sure but his Phoenix-like rise and fall and rise became inspirational to many people of my generation. His charm and his self-deprecating sense of humor gave him a kind of everyman quality that I admired.
While I attended Pratt I was privileged to come in contact with some phenomenal teachers and artists. Herbert Berman, Audrey Flack, Franklin Faust, Ted Kurahara, Bill Toulis and Howard Buchwald were all influential and inspiring in their own way. But two of my professors really stood out and influenced my life in a radical way. James Grashow taught me wood-engraving but more importantly taught me constantly that art was not only about passion… it could also be fun. He also was the best damn drawing teacher I ever knew. His insistence that we use the entire page forced us to see beyond our as yet underdeveloped imaginations.
Susan Kleckner was my photography instructor and she taught us way more than how to use a camera. She taught us how to see. At her insistence, I spent an entire semester shooting a minimum of 8 rolls of film a week and never once looked through the lens. She also taught us how to think. Her reading list went beyond the photography books and journals that were standard college fare to include mind benders like ”The Teachings of Don Juan” and Berger’s “Ways Of Seeing.”
My mom inspired me with her guts and her dedication to her children. She was brave and she was humble and she was strong. She always encouraged my sister and I to do the right by others and to be true to ourselves and our dreams. She instilled in us a sense of family loyalty that holds us together to this day.
I met Patricia Miles in late 1976 after returning to the States from a trip around the world. She was the most beautiful girl I ever met and I pursued her as I had no other. It took time and patience but I won her over and we were married. And just like that we were divorced. 19 years later we got back together. In between I searched far and wide for someone just like her. I never did find anyone to match her inner and outer beauty. I was lucky to get a second chance and I know it. Patricia and I have our differences still but we work through them now. The main thing is this – I have never known anyone as pure of heart and with such a strong desire to just be good. Patricia strives every day to bring a little light into the world. She has more determination in that regard than anyone I’ve ever known and she never quits. Amazingly, she has no idea of how brilliant and inspiring she is. Here is her gift – she makes me want to be a better human being. What can be more inspiring than that?


